Ruth at 89

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Ruth Gordon is eager to see the blockbuster Wonder Woman for very personal reasons.

“I use to think I WAS Wonder Woman.”

When the Wonder Woman comic books first hit the scene in the early 1940s, Ruth felt a commonality.

“I always had so much energy. I felt I could just keep going and going.”

 Like the comic book heroine, Ruth had adversities to overcome at various times in her life. With focus and strength, she has been able to hold on all that she most cherishes — the love of family and access to education.

Ruth has experienced considerable loss in her family. At six, her mother died.

Her only sibling – her dear sister Ellie – died decades ago. She endured a disappointing marriage. Today, with her two children living out of state, Ruth lives in the Boston area without any relatives nearby.

Ruth doesn’t leave any space for pity.

“I never want anyone to feel sorry for me! I have not had a difficult life. I am so privileged.”

For the past 20 years, Ruth has been enmeshed in a very caring community.

“I found my family at my Temple. I feel cherished there.

Like all good families, the synagogue offers Ruth a steady source of encouragement, respect and stability.

“I have so many caring friends there that one said I must come to temple just for the hugs.”

At an early age, Ruth wanted to learn about anything and everything. Like most of her female contemporaries, the path after high school led to marriage rather than college. She refused to cast her educational dreams aside.

“It was a time when women were supposed to stay at home. But, I tried to be true to myself about what I needed.”

The lack of societal support was not Ruth’s only deterrent. Her husband would not allow her to attend school while their children were young. Once the kids started their own education, Ruth had a new impediment. Her husband chose to withhold the money she needed to fill her car with gasoline so she could get to her courses. That turned out to be an inconvenience rather than a dream-buster. In addition to raising the children and attending college, Ruth was a substitute teacher in the Waltham public schools so that she would have the gas money she needed.

Ruth received her undergraduate degree from Boston University and earned a Master’s degree in Jewish contemporary studies at Brandeis. Wonder Woman indeed!

With her degrees in hand, Ruth was a desirable candidate in the workplace. She was hired by the Everett Public School system to coordinate the libraries at eight elementary schools. It was during the Johnson Administration and funds for community development were accessible. Ruth wrote grants to secure federal dollars. She successfully generated hundreds of thousands of dollars for the Everett school system. In her 13th year, however, this exciting venture came to an abrupt end. The city’s new administrator had other priorities for his community. Ruth’s job was eliminated.

“I was really decimated. I was so proud that I had that job.”

Ruth was unable to find a comparable position. She ended up at a Sym’s store selling women’s coats. It was a far cry from the responsibility and challenge she had in the Everett school system.

But Ruth, like Wonder Woman, once again picked herself up. She filled her non-working hours with learning opportunities whenever possible.

Today, Ruth lives in an apartment in a well-maintained assisted living building. She is most happy when she is in a taxi or The Ride, headed to a Bible study class, the movies, a lecture (“I love hearing people speak!”). Her appetite for learning continues whenever she’s at home. This self-proclaimed news junky looks to John Hockenberry, Marco Werman, Terry Gross and other NPR hosts to stay current on the pressing issues of the day.

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Ruth’s journey has been bumpy: the early loss of her mom; her sister’s untimely death; a marriage to someone who didn’t support her dreams; the harsh end to a career where she flourished.

Throughout, she responded with optimism and action.

“I never felt lonely or sorry for myself. That’s the kiss of death.”

Today, she continues to push the past aside so that she can share her enthusiasm for all that’s good in her life.

“I know that I am loved. I am so blessed.”

Ruth’s story is one of strength, self-reliance, and tenacity. The similarities to Wonder Woman couldn’t be more resounding.

8 Responses

  1. Caren

    Loved reading about Ruth’s Wonder Woman journey and recommend she read The Secret Life of Wonder Woman by Jill Lepore. Ruth you are carrying on the legacy!!

  2. Margo F.

    “Blessings of health,cognition and friends ” what more could you want at any age !
    A positive attitude, sometimes difficult, helps.

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